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Don Beck's avatar

Hmmm..as an American your reflections are interesting--especially about defining one's self in the negative, as being "not" another country. I'll need to think about it more--but it seems to me that would be depressing. (Plus, do I sense a dig at us? We're a great country, Father!)

Growing up Michigan, just 90 minutes from the bridge to our Canadian neighbors, we kids and teens used to call Canada "nice America." As in, you were the better version of ourselves--at least in friendliness. Far from tension, we always liked Canadians. We'd vacation there, enjoy the relationship. When things in the States got hairy or annoying, it was common to joke, "I'm moving to Canada." (Although none of us can figure out the appeal of poutine...)

I'm sorry to say in my little neck of the woods this has flipped entirely in the last decade. While some far-left libs may pump a fist over the state of Canada, the conversation I hear more is "What the heck happened to them?" I myself see zero animosity towards our Canadian neighbors, "51st state" jokes aside. More sadness.

A lot of this is politically-driven, of course, which can flip over time. But much of it is cultural, I think. I hear talk of Canada not "peacefully protesting," as you said we Americans can learn from--and maybe you've got a point, we do love rebelling--but about Canadians acquiescing. Rolling over in submission like nice-yet-submissive golden retrievers. To us you appear to want to be led, told what to do, provided for; and those who lead crushing any of you who dare stand on their own (ex: freedom truckers.)

Again, this is my very limited perspective. Not sure if I've added anything to the conversation. But I love Canadians and want you to be strong, independent, and proud--both for your own good and as our good ally. Not to define yourself in relation to us, but as a proud nation with a proud history :)

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Fr. Justin (Edward) Hewlett's avatar

Good thoughts, as always, Don. Yes, there’s definitely a dig at America - that’s always there, as part of our identity - but it’s a friendly dig, which, as you note, is also a part of our identity.

The thing is, there’s really no way, given the size and influence of America, for us *not* to define ourselves in relation to you! Prime Minister Pierre Eliot Trudeau, the father of our just-deposed Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau, once described being Canadian as being like sleeping in bed with an elephant… you never know when it’s going to roll over and crush you, which seems very much like what President Trump is threatening to do to us these days. But being defined by relationship isn’t necessarily a bad thing (that’s essentially what marriage is!), and that doesn’t actually mean that we don’t have our own identity. But what little we had of positive identity has been attacked and demeaned over recent years, largely by members of our own government (which is one of the reasons I speak slightingly in the piece about our not really achieving our ideal of “good government”!), with the government response to the trucker convoy being Exhibit A and the national overreaction to ground-penetrating radar anomalies in Kamloops as Exhibit B. Which is part of why I say it’s hard to be proud to be a Canadian these days.

And, FWIW, I can’t entirely figure out the appeal of poutine either!

But I do think we can see the definition of being Canadian as being “not American” in positive terms, and writing this response has given me the ideal lens to see it through: we’re defining ourselves in relationship as in a marriage or in a deep friendship… part of that relationship is the fact that we are “other”, but the other half is that we each recognize and appreciate the goodness in the “other”. Which is why I was happy to write and post this piece on American Independence Day!

Happy Fourth of July! And happy belated Dominion Day! Let’s celebrate together.

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